“Rape apologist author compares dressing provocatively to leaving a laptop in the back seat of a car”
So this man, Nick Ross, that this article criticizes, appears to be arguing that we wouldn’t leave out cash or expensive electronics, so we should also not “flaunt” our bodies by dressing provocatively or stay out late without a male chaperone or drink a lot, etc.
Ok. Benefit of the doubt side: he is a concerned father figure that just wants to keep the ladies safe, be realistic, and not imagine a future where ideologies or culture could change and men could own their mistakes.
Done giving benefits.
First of all, his analogy is all wrong. When a laptop gets stolen, no matter where it is left, the thief still goes to jail. No one pretends it’s not his or her fault. No one says “well, since the laptop was sitting in the open, this is not a robbery, it’s an accidental snatching and this fellow here is not really a thief, he’s an accidental snatcher person.” He’s still a thief and it is still a robbery, no matter how he went about stealing the goods, how easy or hard it was to steal them, or what condition the goods were in. The analogy to rape falls through if he’s trying to say it’s not really rape if the victim was in a mini-skirt. If the victim was raped, it’s a rape, no matter what she was wearing or doing. Just like the robbery is still a robbery, not a legitimate robbery, not an easy robbery, while we might make these personal judgements, in the end, to the courts, it’s just a robbery.
The author of the article points out that “We all assume a measure of personal responsibility in all our movements and actions, and not every ill-advised or mutually drunken encounter is a violation” and I agree. But Nick Ross seems to put all of that responsibility on the ladies, perpetuating “the myth of the self-guiding penis” as one columnist writes.
Look, if I, in full coherent mental capacity, covered myself in steaks and walked into the lion cage at the zoo, the following mauling would be my fault. We’re talking about wild animals here who are natural born hunters. MEN ARE NOT LIONS. If I walk into a bar with a short skirt on, whatever action the men in that bar take is their choice and their responsibility and their jail sentence, if it comes to that. No matter if you believe we have been created with moral abilities or we have evolved into morality, morality remains. So does self-control and personal responsibility. Any man that argues that the man was “provoked” or “couldn’t help himself” is arguing that men are weak, unthinking, unable to control himself. Anyone that puts the responsibility for avoiding rape on the woman is saying that very thing. Think about this, men. You are letting men like Nick Ross call you weak and non-human. Stop that. You are more than your penis.
I won’t go on, since I haven’t read Nick Ross’s book, and since he also says “Rape is one of the most defiling crimes and there is never excuse or justification for it”….but then talks all about those juicy, tempting laptops just leading those poor thieves on. I’m just confused. Ross – get your head on straight.